Bye bye Nicole

So I finally talked to Nicole. Here's what we said....

(E=Erik N=Nicole)

IM IM with sewcialbutterfli2/18/08 12:33 PM
N:hi
E:hi
N:how are you?
E:fine.
How are you
N:I am well
just in class
havent talked to you in awhile, how have you been?
E:fine
nothing worth mentioning I suppose
N:alrighty
well
you in your ethics class?
E:yeah
I think it would be best if we stopped dating/talking
I don't want to be a dick
N:ok
E:sorry;
but it had to be said
You have shit going on in your life
and I do too
Things have come to light and I don't think it's worth it
N:what has come to light?
E:I just started thinking about shit
N:i see
E:I liked you and you seemed to like me
However, I have been under alot of stress from our whatever you want to call it and I really don't see an end in sight
The whole Jim situation, I know you haven't really done anything since that whole deal but that was one week
Then I go on vacation, and when I come back, I ask you to go to valentines day with me....You said you were busy with a friend thing, and I was dissappointed but not pissed or anything
I then find out that Drew tried to kiss you like less than a month ago?
And on valentines day. I hate the day anyway because it's a fucking corporate single awareness day
but that made it worse
I just feel like you need to be surrounded by people who like you more than a friendship thing, I don't know why but you do. And I don't want to compete with that
You haven't called me at all since we started the whole dating thing
I just feel like I'm putting in some work and you weren't really even trying
And you kinda treated me like you don't care.
So that made me thing
think*
if she doesn't care, why should I?
Maybe she's right. maybe I deserve to "settle down with someone nice" and someone who acts like they care.
I really don't want to sound like a jerk, but I just want to convey what I am thinking
N:it was not that i did not care.
and i did call you
E:You could have fooled me Nichole
N:its nicole
E:okay
sorry for mistyping your name, I know how it's spelled
That's not the point though
it's an effort thing
I don't know
it's just interesting to me
because I don't really know what to think about you
N:Well
E:So many mixed signals
and I am tired of all the charade and stress that is coming from trying to date you
N:I enjoyed your company and wanted to take things slowly
i didnt know it was causing you stress
and I am sorry it did
and then you said you were going to call me a few times and didnt
E:I think we were taking things slowly, that I didn't have a problem with it
N:and you said we were going to hang out saturday
E:I know...but as I said before, things came to light
and frankly, I didn't want to see you
N:no i understand
E:I didn't have a problem with taking things slowly
I didn't
N:sorry i disappointed you Erik
E:and I think I was pretty clear about it
I was not cool with you surrounding yourself with people you know likes you romantically because that's the exact same thing as the Jim thing
N:and the me not calling is a dumb thing with how my mom brought me up and I am sorry about that as well
well
it isnt like that Erik
i try to
E:I also looked on your facebook and read a wall to wall you had with drew
N:drew is the closest guy i have to not liking me
E:I don't want to sound like a jellous jerk
N:he did tht on purpose
E:but That's what you call flirting
N:to stop joe
from creeping me out
honestly
i try to have friends that dont like me
but almost all of my guy friends do
and my gfs are all in serious relationships so dont have uch time
E:and that's fine
you can enjoy that. I just don't want to deal with the flirting with other guys, the almost rape situations, and the all around attention thing that I feel like you are surrounding yourself with
I"m glad you have friends
I just don't want to be around for when other stuff happens
N:that jim thing wont happen again
it was dumb
and i try to avoid a lot of that attention
E:Wait
T.O for a min
N:ok
E:You try and avoid that kind of attention?
and you take some guy out on a friend date on what day? Valentines day! That's right, and was that guy someone who kissed you earlier this year? I think so
so don't try and tell me that shit
N:I told him not to Erik
E:no
N:like i told drew i jsut wanted to be friends
E:I don't care if you did
N:i didnt want to ruin our friendship
well im saying i try to avoid that
E:but You took him on a date on Vday
N:and I am single i didnt want to say home alone for valentines day
he took me out
E:and that is attracting that kind of attention
N:because he was alone too
its not like we kissed
or anything
we hang out all the time
we just didnt wanna be alone
E:you were dating someone
you weren't alone, yes we were not in a relationship, but we were dating
and I came home on Monday
Sunday*
I don't know nicole
N:I guess I viewed things differntly
we had gone on a few dates
E:I know
N:I didnt realize that we were exclusive or anything
E:well, that was never said
N:and I didnt go out on dates with other guys
E:And you are right, technically we weren't
N:you never even kissed me
E:I guess I just assumed
I know
I am a pussy
N:and i didnt go out with any other guys
I was going to a few times
besides my guy friends
E:I just don't want to be a part of that. It's a personal choice
N:alright
i understand
E:And I hope you can appreciate that
N:I just hope that you do not think that i am a bad person
of course I can Erik
E:I just think that you don't think about some things
N:I have no hard feelings towards you but I want you to know that i
E:and we shouldn't be together
N:I agree with you on that
and I am sorry for any stress I might have caused you
E:don't be
N:I am
I feel bad about this situation
E:don't be sorry for what you did, just use it to treat future men in a different way
N:how do you suggest doing that
E:I don't get the whole exclusive thing
N:exclusive thing?
E:I think that if I would have dated another person while we were dating, and you found out, you prolly would not be extremely happy
I don't know though
maybe you'd be cool with it
N:I guess i thought that dating
was you go on a few dates with someone
if you like them
then you take it up a level
E:that is true
N:but I don't knwo
E:I am a pussy and I need to step up to the plate
N:you were never very clear about what we were
E:fuckin
N:I know
and i didnt go on dates with other guys besides a friend date with drew
and yeah he made it sound flirty
he does that a lot
and I know
i even sent him a text about it
and was like wow thats flirty sounding drew lol
I don't know
I am sorry though
E:I just want to wash my hands of it. I understand you never really did anything. I just think that the whole v-day thing is a duh thing, and after I found out that He tried to kiss you, Jim just came into my head
E:Its fine
N:how did you find out he tried to kiss me?
E:You told me right when we first started talking, I just didn't put 2 and 2 together. Then Andy and Stephanie told me. Then I went to facebook and saw the whole wall to wall thing calling you baby and you and him talking about a wedding and shit
N:ahhh
E:I just think that that was kinda poo
N:yeah thats why jake hated him too
E:so I was like whatever, enjoy Drew
N:like he is very flirty like that
E:okay
N:I am not dating drew though and I dont want to and if i knew it would have bothered you, i wouldnt have said that
but i understand and you dont have to explain things to me!
E:it really wouldn't. It's just that he tried to kiss you, you said "no you!" and then a few weeks later, you guys are flirting
N:well yeah because we always have
our whole friendship
has been a jokingly flirty thing
like
he jokes about my allowence as his wife and stupid stuff
E:alright
Well, I'm done talking about this
I got you something for V-day before all this shit happened, so I'll get it to you. I have no use for it. I hope you enjoy your life and if our paths meet in the future, cool beans. Thanks for getting my feet wet again after 2 years. The glove just doesn't fit with us. Have a nice day.
N:you too erik! You are a great guy and dont settle for anything less




The end. I really tried to be nice.


Fuck.